We have been married for 15 years, have two beautiful daughters, I love my wife dearly, but here is where it all falls apart.
My wife says she loves me, but there has been zero emotional support for 5 years or more. By zero I mean zero, No affection at all, no hand holding, no hugs, no kissing nothing. I am totally rejected by my wife. The truth is she has serious self esteem issues, which I can do nothing to help. I have tried EVERYTHING. We have gone to counseling together, but each time after a few visits, she stops going. I am still in counseling by myself, but until my wife does something to help herself, I don't see things improving.
I take my vows very seriously, and stand by them. I am not what folks would consider a "good" catholic, but quite honestly, I feel rejected by God as well. Why does God submit me to so much pain, this is a pain no drug can help.
What can I do? PLEASE understand, I have a 4 year history with my therapist, so it has become a little easier to talk about this, but it would be nearly impossible to talk to my priest, I would have a better feeling to talking to one of the nuns that I have known for many years, and have many occasions driven into the church parking lot with full intention of trying to talk to her, each time turning around and leaving.
My wife says she loves me, but there has been zero emotional support for 5 years or more. By zero I mean zero, No affection at all, no hand holding, no hugs, no kissing nothing. I am totally rejected by my wife. The truth is she has serious self esteem issues, which I can do nothing to help. I have tried EVERYTHING. We have gone to counseling together, but each time after a few visits, she stops going. I am still in counseling by myself, but until my wife does something to help herself, I don't see things improving.
I take my vows very seriously, and stand by them. I am not what folks would consider a "good" catholic, but quite honestly, I feel rejected by God as well. Why does God submit me to so much pain, this is a pain no drug can help.
What can I do? PLEASE understand, I have a 4 year history with my therapist, so it has become a little easier to talk about this, but it would be nearly impossible to talk to my priest, I would have a better feeling to talking to one of the nuns that I have known for many years, and have many occasions driven into the church parking lot with full intention of trying to talk to her, each time turning around and leaving.