Ok, I am new here but I REALLY want some answers from Catholics as I have no one I really trust with this.
I am a woman in my mid 30s. I recently met a man I like. He had his marriage annulled so I know it is OK to date him. However, he has a son from that marriage. The truth is, I REALLY don't know if I could get past that. He is a good man and would be so perfect if it weren't for that.
Money should not be a factor but when I work hard to pay my bills (my salary is not the best but with some savy budgeting techniques I can make ends meet), I can't help but think I would feel cheated if I married this man and some money would go to another woman's kid. And then if this kid grows up and wants to go to college, well that is SO expensive how much support would he want to give his son.
And I really want kids of my own. I am young enough that being catholic we could still have a relatively large family. I always though I would do my best to save for MY kids education. Well how fair is that to this boy? All his half siblings get help for college and he doesn't?
What are people's opinions? Can a woman insist that her husband gives less financial help to some other woman's child? After all, should the child's mom not be paying half for this kid? The truth is, neither of our incomes are that high. If we were both doctor's and had money to burn, I wouldn't notice what he spent on his son. But we are not rich and I do notice and feel a big pinch when unexpected bills come up
Opions are appreciated
I am a woman in my mid 30s. I recently met a man I like. He had his marriage annulled so I know it is OK to date him. However, he has a son from that marriage. The truth is, I REALLY don't know if I could get past that. He is a good man and would be so perfect if it weren't for that.
Money should not be a factor but when I work hard to pay my bills (my salary is not the best but with some savy budgeting techniques I can make ends meet), I can't help but think I would feel cheated if I married this man and some money would go to another woman's kid. And then if this kid grows up and wants to go to college, well that is SO expensive how much support would he want to give his son.
And I really want kids of my own. I am young enough that being catholic we could still have a relatively large family. I always though I would do my best to save for MY kids education. Well how fair is that to this boy? All his half siblings get help for college and he doesn't?
What are people's opinions? Can a woman insist that her husband gives less financial help to some other woman's child? After all, should the child's mom not be paying half for this kid? The truth is, neither of our incomes are that high. If we were both doctor's and had money to burn, I wouldn't notice what he spent on his son. But we are not rich and I do notice and feel a big pinch when unexpected bills come up
Opions are appreciated