I've been engaged to the love of my life for 8 months and we're getting married in 4. We come from Catholic families and are devout Catholics ourselves. We are excited for the marital act. My only worry is getting pregnant. Don't get me wrong, I love children. I don't know if I'm ready to be a mom though! I'm in my first year of my master's degree program at age 22. I have 2 more years to go. My fiance has made it clear he doesn't want to practice NFP to avoid conception unless we have a valid reason which is highly unlikely. To him, studying is not a valid reason to postpone pregnancy. He has made it clear we should postpone the wedding if I'm not ready to be open to life (yes I realize practicing NFP to avoid conception is still being open to life but studying isn't a valid enough reason for him)! We've been dating for over 3 years. I think we are so ready for marriage and I could not imagine postponing the wedding after sending out invitations, booking the venue for our reception, even family living on the other side of the country have flights booked! I believe we are ready to become one flesh. As the wedding day gets closer and closer I feel myself getting more and more scared. My fiance and I have taken NFP classes and I thought the possibility of us practicing NFP to avoid conception was highly likely in the first 6 months-2 years of marriage. I never realized how much my fiance was against it until a few weeks ago. I understand I could get pregnant at any time and would gladly welcome a baby! I like the option of practicing NFP to avoid conception for a little though. How am I supposed to feel on my wedding day? Wedding night? At the moment I'm thinking I will be too scared to have sex thinking there's a possibility of getting pregnant! We are financially stable, have insurance, wonderful place to live. I feel hurt and objectified by my fiance as well. Do I not have a say as to what is a valid reason to practice NFP to avoid conception or not? Aren't we supposed to prayerfully discern this together? :blush:
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